How To Be Ready For Love

Have you been in and out of relationships? Can't seem to find the right guy/girl? Or just have no idea about love at all?
Have you been in and out of relationships? Can't seem to find the right guy/girl? Or just have no idea about love at all?

Read these tips on how to usher long lasting love into your life!

You must be kidding me, you say? Read on!

1) Love yourself

First things first! Love yourself. As the saying goes, how can you love someone if you don't know how to love yourself? How can you accept love from someone if you don't know how to love either?

A great way to start is just by embracing who you are, loving who you were made to be. Love your qualities, love your flaws. Accept them as a part of you and what makes you unique. Once you do this, you begin to understand how to love a person more. You begin to cherish that special person because you cherish yourself. You gain a greater sense of respect for another because of your heightened self worth.

2) Get over the hurt!

Don't let the hurt rule you! Get it out of your system. Take time to meditate and concentrate on how to heal. Don't replay what happened over and over in your head. Believe when I say, it DOES NOT serve a good purpose. If you're a God-fearing person, pray! Take the time to stay in His presence and concentrate on Him more than THEM. Once you do this, you'll be back on your feet and concentrating on yourself more than your pain.

3) Concentrate on YOU.

You've just healed from heartbreak and you're feeling like an Olympic gold medalist (I should hope), now it's time to start investing back into you! Go out, go for a meal with friends, go shopping, go to the gym... Something! Anything to be putting back into you. Top yourself up! Time being hurt or withdrawn takes away from you more than you think.

Put yourself in the company of family and friends. Only the ones that give good energy and advice. Not all family and friends are good for you, it's up to you to discern who is good for you.

Read good books, listen to uplifting music. Nothing helps the soul and mind more than these things! It's scientifically proven!

4) Be emotionally available.

Those walls. Those guards. They've GOT to go. Insecurities, fears, worries, doubts, and so on are all detrimental to a relationship. Work them out BEFORE getting into one. Make sure that you've made the choice that you want be open to someone and that you want to let them in your heart. No point expecting someone to walk into a closed door, it's not fair on them.

5) Be calm!

Very important to both men and women! Don't rush, don't be needy. Calm the heck down! Anything rushed is spoiled.

Don't be too critical or demanding. Understand what your partner would want from you, put your mind in theirs. Put their needs before yours, selflessness is the way forward. You can't be needy, rushing or demanding and selfless at the same time. Take some time to ponder on that.

These points should help you be on the way to have a quality, long lasting relationship!

Tell me how it goes!

dunamis